When Relationships Hurt Instead of Heal
Relationships are meant to nurture us — to make us feel valued, safe, and seen. But when a relationship becomes controlling, manipulative, or emotionally harmful, it can leave deep and lasting wounds.
You may find yourself questioning your memory, apologising often, or doubting your worth. You might feel trapped between longing for the person and fearing their behaviour. These experiences are more common than most people realise, and the effects can linger long after the relationship ends.
Through our work together, you can begin to reclaim your voice, rebuild your confidence, and reconnect with your authentic self.
Understanding Narcissistic and Toxic Dynamics
Narcissistic or toxic relationships can occur in any area of life — family, romantic, professional, or social. What often defines them is an imbalance of power: one person’s needs dominate while the other’s are dismissed or minimised.
You might have felt loved one moment and criticised the next. Over time, this inconsistency can create confusion and self-doubt. You may even begin to question your reality — a response known as “gaslighting.”
Recognising these patterns is the first step towards healing. In therapy, we can gently explore these experiences at your pace, always with compassion and without judgement.
The Healing Power of Understanding
Once you begin to name what has happened, something shifts. You start to understand that what you experienced was not your fault — that the manipulation, silence, or blame was never a reflection of your worth.
In our sessions, we work to:
- Understand and break unhelpful relationship patterns
- Rebuild your self-esteem and confidence
- Strengthen emotional boundaries
- Develop practical strategies to distance yourself from harmful dynamics
Healing doesn’t mean forgetting. It means reclaiming your energy, your peace, and your sense of who you are.
Therapy as a Space for Reconnection
Whether you prefer face-to-face counselling in Archway, North London or online sessions, therapy offers a confidential, consistent space to process what has happened. You are met with empathy and curiosity — not judgement.
Together, we can explore the impact of past relationships, the emotions that arise, and how to move towards healthier, more fulfilling connections in the future.